Wednesday, 26 March 2014

Being present = being completely in our truth

"Life's I get older it sometimes seems that life presents itself more complicated...or perhaps I am simply more aware of the different aspects of life now than I was in my younger years."

As I am sure I am not alone in this I would like to share my questions with you. 

The journey of life as I have lived and observed has its cycles. Sometimes we are in a learning stage and sometimes we find ourselves in a coasting stage. 

The past 18 months I have definately experienced a 'learning' stage in my cycles of Life and yes it has been quite a Rollercoaster ride at times. Taking the turns as gracefully as I could, my focus and aim have remained on staying I caught myself hiding from the present. So here are my thoughts on this, which may hopefully inspire you:

When we hide from the present (which we may not always notice right away) are we in actual fact denying ourselves OUR 'truth' or simply the 'BEING PRESENT'!

This may manifest in how we respond to a situation, what we say or what we don't say, what we chose and even why we chose something. 

I think life and the temptation I often encounter within myself and which I observe around me, is that of 'escaping' or handing the responsibility of life to someone else/or others opinion by following blindly rather than being Present in our decision making/actions - or it can be as simple as us stepping out of the Present moment by allowing the Past and the Future to consume us.

The TRUTH is that being present and sometimes not is part of our journey. We cannot be in a perfect zone all the time, otherwise there would be no space for learning. In my view being completely truthful to ourselves and others also needs to be mindfully dealt with, as unfortunately sometimes we can be irrational or our actions/thoughts can come from a selfish space rather than a pure one OR more importantly our TRUTH also sometimes has a timing which cannot be put across without the readiness of others or a situation to be able to receive it. 

YET when we pause...view things objectively...allowing ourselves to let go or step out of our own way...we CAN feel/see more clearly when we are in our TRUTH, FLOW or we can call it simply BEING PRESENT - it is here that we start to feel the beautiful interplay of TRUTH, trust and letting go.

And lastly we need to understand (which is something I often have to remind myself of) that when we are mindful and in our complete truth there is no wrong and the more we live in it the more easily it is accessible.

Yes that was a mouthful, I please don't hesitate to post your thoughts or questions...or share your wisdom or experience. I would love to learn from you.

Being real - beautiful

The Beauty of someone who knows the real you.

[on the perfect proposal] Look, I guarantee there'll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me.
When I was walking down the aisle, I was walking toward somebody who didn't have any idea who I really was. And it was only half the other person's fault, because I had done everything to convince him that I was exactly what he wanted. So it was good that I didn't go through with it because it would have been a lie. But you - you knew the real me.
I've come here with no expectations, only to profess, now that I am at liberty to do so, that my heart is, and always will be, yours.

Saturday, 15 March 2014

Ms. Lonely

Today is one of those days where being single, has a lonely feeling about it.

Its a day where I missed having someone to come home to, someone to hold and hug me...that person in my life that has and continues to chose to walk life's path beside me...that person that will listen or simply be there to let your mind be spoken out aloud.

And of course...That person that loves me, because I am me.

The love we experience in an intimate/love partnership is a beautiful thing, and a true blessing. Even if we have it only for a while, its better to have had it than not at all. 

My feeling like Ms. Lonely today seems and is very connected to a yearning of the beauty that I/we can find in intimate relationships. The reflection of ourselves, the challenges that teach us so much, the beauty of sharing on a level beyond all friendship, and simply having an amazingly deep friendship that allows us to experience life not only through our own eyes but share another's life with them.

YET or a big BUT...time alone is definately not in vane. It offers us a different space to learn, reflect, to re-evaluate, to become the authentic you that makes for a better future or next relationship. 

So to all the singles out there, sharing these moments with me. I know (yes I am speaking from my experience of it) can sometimes be a true challenge I agree. The challenges simply mean we have to toughen up and be aware that we may at times need to work harder at creating an objective view for ourselves on situations that we encounter. Dodge the pitfall of becoming too absorbed by our life/selves...which I believe is what can/will ultimately make us more lonely or make it more difficult to have space for that beautiful partnership. Finding myself seeking refuge in the challenges of work has been my biggest lesson to learn - during my lonely moments - as it spirals us into a space of NO TIME...and 'no time' means lessening the opportunity to meet that partner in or for life.

May our journeys be fruitful and join me in believing - that there is that person that is 'right' for 'us' (the right person for me/you to grow, be authentic, and truely love and be loved by).

I hope that those of you in relationship will also be inspired by this article to look at the positives in your we are easily swept up in the negatives...ENJOY what you have...of course if what you have is thing I do know and have learnt from the past is that we do feel it just stay plugged in to the moment, aware of the small things that manifest as a gut feeling...we always know more than we think we do. ULTIMATELY no matter what TRUST yourself and be TRUE to yourself.